Alright since no one has talked about this, I’d like to know what are your thoughts on this? Is it wrong to dump someone by texts and e-mails? Let me know what you all think. There are no right or wrong answers, I’m curious because some people think it’s pathetic and some people think it’s okay.
Not sure if I got any room to talk because I have ended friendships through texts and e-mails since I can’t take the stress anymore as I had taken enough abuse from them.
I wouldn’t say “wrong” as much as disrespectful. If you care about someone enough to be in a relationship with them. Show them the respect to at least break up face to face.
I understand how it might be something suited to people in long distance relationships, however maybe instead of a text, pick up the phone and call.
It’s not how I would handle something. I had an ex text me breaking up, but it didn’t bother me as much as we’d barely been together long at all and he was having a hard time as his mate had just died. But in general, I’d say try to avoid it.
When your in the beginning stages of dating someone. You haven’t really met before, I can kind of understand it? If you had a bad Tinder date for example.But I think if your in an actual committed relationship it’s a disrespectful way to handle things. It’s better to say it in person or through the phone.If you have a long-distance relationship. Break-ups usually aren’t very fun.Especially for the one on the receiving end,Feeling like your not even worth call ,can mess some people up.
Such things should be handle face to face. If you ask me, these things don’t fit to be done through texts/e-mails at all - but it’s only if you know the person.
Unless it’s said to someone you barely know, it’s kinda understandable, but try to avoid it anyway,
'cause again, such things don’t fit to be handle by sending texts/e-mails.
Sometimes, people wonder if that person was being serious or not in the texts or e-mails.
Sending someone an e-mail sounds so formal? And kind off an odd way to break-up with someone. I mean I have met people who have been broken up by text, but have yet to meet someone who got dumped via e-mail.
The whole relationships thing is not something that I understand much, to be honest, but if you wanna end a relationship with someone, then it should be done when facing him and respectfully.
Sending texts to break up with the person? If you ask me, it sounds like escaping from facing the person at some point. And I don’t think you should do it
Yes I have. One time, I was talking to someone and they showed me an e-mail, saying that they got dumped. I wasn’t too sure on how to react on that one.
Well it’s not the best method you can use to break up with somebody, I get that it might be hard. But a phone call or a video call would be better. There is no easy way to break up with somebody, either way there will be hurt but ideally it should be done face to face.
I wouldn’t either, I barely use my e-mail unless it’s business or college related.
Worst break-up I heard though was from a friend of mine who got broken-up with face to face .While she was on vacation with his family.Which just seems extremely awkward , being on vacation with your ex and his family.
I usually use e-mails but not for socialising unless I want to catch up with some people since I don’t use any social media (which I don’t want to explain why).
Oh wow that definitely sounds awkward AF! I have never heard of situations like this. All I have heard of is when two friends have a huge argument on holiday (vacation) and the flight back home becomes awkward.
Makes sense. I haven’t started using social media until recently, used to really dislike it.
Also it totally was because his parents were right next door too! Since they were having some sorts of game night? So for the entire night they still had to act like they were a couple.Fortunately enough their vacation spot wasn’t actually that far from her house, so her mother came to pick her up the next day.
Oh man, that sure sounds like a super awkward break up.
in abuise cases or if it is a long distance relationship its fair. but you are a coverd els to dump someone over text if you can not say it to their face you are pathetic and you clerly dont care about them
I wouldn’t say it’s wrong, just a little disrespectful. I think you should make an effort to meet with your significant other in person to explain why, unless you feel unsafe. In those circumstances, do whatever you feel will keep you out of harm.
Yeah I don’t think it’s wrong I mean is there really a right way to break a relationship? But it is super disrespectful in my opinion…even tho I stutter when it comes to things like that I always try and do it face to face. I mean it’s the least that they deserve
If it’s not really a committed relationship and stuff and you haven’t been together long then I’d understand it more. If you’re in a committed relationship and you want to break up with the other person, I mean it isn’t wrong but I wouldn’t reccomend anyone to do it. I don’t think you should text someone and break up with them, but it doesn’t completely bother me. You should give the relationship the respect and proper ending it deserves by breaking it off nicely- not by text.
It’s complicated u know. I mean. There is no a nice way to break up. But doing it over text or e-mail is kinda low to me, because it shows the lack of respect for the person. And I did it once, when I was a teen, but still. Unless you are afraid of your ex, do it in person.
Yeah, I agree, not really a nice way to do it. But for flings and not official relationships, it’s fine I think.
I’ve been broken up with via Skype, which suckeddddddd but I’ve also felt mature when I broke up with a non-official relationship (situationsship? we weren’t friends so it wasn’t a fwb situation) by calling instead of texting so, yeah.
But yeah, I don’t think I’ve broken up with anyone (beyond a first/second date) by text. And agree email seems pretty formal.
Did it read like:
To whom it may concern,
I am breaking up with you.
Best,
The breaker-upper
alright I know that this is an unpopulair opinion but I would prefer it if the person told me it by text or email.