I’m book marking this.
Can someone pin this?
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Omg yes plz!
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I’m very interested!
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Have you seen any portrayals of Jewish people in American or British media that you relate to @Kanubish ?
I know of a ton of shows where it’s portrayed but it’s usually more secular like Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm, The Nanny, State of Grace, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, Broad City, The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel, Transparent, Big Mouth, and the only British show I know, Friday Night Dinner.
If not, any Israeli shows that might be somewhat easy to find with subtitles that are good?
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Oh I forgot about French movies/shows like “La vérité si je mente” (the truth if I’m lying) and Family business that focus on Jews living in France, specifically. But again, they’re pretty secular.
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No problem 
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About Jewish weddings
Before I explain in details about Jewish weddings, I will give a short preamble:
So as you know, a man proposes his love and when she agrees, they are engaged. In Hebrew, fiance is called “arus”, and fiancee is called “arusa” - it’s called “erusin” which means “engagement”.
Many people in Israel usually stay engaged for about 7 months, but religious people and Haredim usually get married 2-3 months later since they’ve got engaged. Most people (at least in Israel) take pictures before the wedding, so on the wedding day, their pictures are shown on screen in the event hall where the wedding is going to take place.
And of course, during these months, they are NOT allowed to do anything intimate.
NOTE: regardless, Jewish couples who follow all the laws of Torah and Halacha are NOT allowed to touch each other unless they are married (yep. Usually men and women aren’t allowed to touch each other, except for family members, people who are of the same gender and husband/wife)
Before the wedding ceremony, the groom agrees to be bound by the terms of the ketubah, which he and two witnesses sign, a Jewish marriage contract which is an integral part of a (traditional) Jewish marriage. It outlines the rights and responsibilities of the groom, in relation to the bride.
The Jewish wedding process has two distinct stages: kiddushin (also known as erusin, engagement in Hebrew) and nissuin (marriage). The first stage prohibits the woman to all other men and (in case they want to divorce) requires a religious divorce (gett) to dissolve, and the second and final stage permits the couple to each other. That ceremony is known as chuppah (lit. “Canopy”).
The entrance of the groom and bride:
First, the groom comes when he is accompanied by his parents and they stand and wait inside the chuppah for both the groom and bride to enter into it together. The groom stands in front of the chuppah and then the bride comes - now the groom approaches her and covers his bride’s face with hinuma (“veil”). You know why is that so? The veil emphasizes that the groom is not solely interested in the bride’s external beauty, which fades with time, but rather in her inner beauty which she will never lose. And they come in the chuppah together and the rabbi starts the ceremony when there are two valid witnesses (Note: The witnesses CANNOT be family relatives of any side) who must see the groom place the ring.
The ceremony:
Well, the rabbi recites the Sheva Brachot (lit. The Seven Blessings). After that, the groom gives his bride a ring, places it on the bride’s right index finger after reciting the declaration: " Harey, at mekudeshet li, be’tabaat zo ke’dat Moshe ve’Yisrael" (trans. “Behold, you are consecrated to me with this ring according to the law of Moses and Israel”) and they’re husband and wife. At the end of the ceremony, the groom recites the verse:
And breaks a glass, crushing it with his right foot, and all guests congratulate them.
After the ceremony, all guests and the fresh married people dance together on the dance floor (since my family is of Ethiopian descent, we also put Ethiopian songs (in addition to Israeli songs) and dance the Ethiopian dance).
NOTE: In religious people’s weddings, men and women dance separately since it’s not allowed in the Halacha.
NOTES:
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I know that Reforms have new customs, so there is a chance other branches (like Reforms and Conservatives)/ethnic groups (Ashkenazim, for instance) do it a bit differently.
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One or two days before the marriage, women need to go to mikveh when they don’t wear any jewelry and makeup (including nail polish). Before going to the mikveh, they have to take shower with soap, make sure that they don’t have dry skin/scab/skin peelings and brush their hair.
I hope it helps you and if you have any questions, feel free to ask.
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Good question. To be honest, not really. As you said:
You mean like series?
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Yep!
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Hmmm…
When Heroes Fly, Fauda, Srugim, Mossad 101, The Baker and The Beauty (L’hiot Ita, lit. “Being With her”)…
I don’t know if there are more, but that’s what I could think of. I hope you will find at least 2 of the series with English subtitles.
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It’s nice of you, but I don’t think someone would like to pin it (only the staff can pin, I think?)
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Thank you, @PensiveShadow 
. You didn’t have to do it
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This is so interesting and motivational to write a Jewish character if I am honest! I mean I always was interested in writing a Jewish character but was scared I wouldn’t represent the religion well but this helps me to feel confident I can write a good representation of Judaism!
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I am glad it encourages you to create Jewish characters . Feel free to ask me if something is unclear or you’re not sure about something! 
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Bump…
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Bump. 
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Happy Hanukkah
Tag:
@Duckling (feel free to tag more Jewish people, in case you know some)
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Happy Hanukkah to you too 
I sadly don’t know any other Jewish people on here… 
Bummer. But at least I am not alone here, if you get what I mean.
Thanks
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Woah, this is such a long and helpful post! Definitely bookmark worthy
But I have a question : Would it be really disrespectful to have a Jewish character with a Christian family?
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