I wish…I hate some of my family members. You’re born with a family, but you can call the people you love family , and avoid the ones you hate. I consider my friends part of my family but not my sister…
I’m just sick of being talked down on for defending myself against that horrible aunt. She’s not the only one that has been giving me a hard time, her husband is a prick too! I guess he converted her to be a dick to me.
Definitely! If your family causes you a lot of stress or is detrimental to your mental health, you can cut them off and I see that as 100% fine. My mum has done it with a lot of my family members who weren’t ok with me being mixed race.
Friends are like family you can choose! Sure, I tend to forgive family more willingly than friends, but that doesn’t give them a free pass to be horrible to me.
Since I have cut ties with relatives (close or distant), I feel better but the problem is that when my mum brings them up, this is when hell breaks loose because I still get flashbacks of the shit that happened to me in the past that I can’t seem to let go.
I find it difficult to do that since she always defend those who have hurt me and never bother to listen to my side of the story. She even tries guilt tripping me whenever she mentions this one cousin I can’t stand anymore since she stabbed me in the back.
Pretty much. I always hide in my room whenever that bitch comes or when she has her friends over (don’t like her friends because they always see me as a threat just because I don’t conform to the ideal Bangladeshi woman).