That’s where the edication comes in, again. It’s literally th be-all and end-all of how to fix this. The approach of how to actually teach it isn’t really my area, but demystifying it is a good first step. It isn’t this magical thing that changes you as a person. That’s what we need to start teaching
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Even teens aren’t the best decision-makers, I myself can attest to that. I feel like a lot of teens now don’t think it through, but to those that do think it through and think about it seriously more power to them, but that doesn’t mean that I would advise anyone underage to have sex.
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I know you didn’t ask me, but I really wanted to answer, sorry 
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I know everyone is different but for my experience, I knew I was ready because it was what I really wanted to do. No one had influence over my decision when usually a lot of my decisions have some sort of influence. This one was all me.
Again, this is only for me but maybe it may be similar for someone out there.
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Yeah, I feel it’s some weird hidden message type stuff. “STDS, pregnancy, protection! And if that doesn’t work? Just don’t do it!”
Why do they think millions of people died during the AIDS epidemic? Sheesh
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Interesting. So. Should that decision be completely taken away from them?
And again, I know it’s not fun, and it’s uncomfortable, but what does that say about the people who still do if you advise against it? Are they morally wrong? Evil? Somehow inherently negatively changed?
This is why it’s a grey area.
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Because handling this even slightly wrong can spiral right into purity territory
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I mean, I’ve never seen someone as that, I mean maybe some other people do but people I’ve known also haven’t ever seen someone as evil for having sex, unless you believe it’s a sin or something. Yeah it’s not a huge leap but being concerned for someone’s well being and safety is different than thinking of them as evil. If anything, I’d just worry about them.
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I agree, worrying about someone’s wellbeing is great. I worry about people I know all the time. However, it’s also good to be careful when you say ‘I would advise against…’, or at least give it some thought to what you mean when you say it. What it seems to indicate to the people who do what you advise against. Especially in the murky area of sex and consent.
It’s already a very complicated area, and it is super easy to get confused, but at the end of the day? It is their mistake to make. Trying to coddle them will only make it worse. All you can do is equip them with the knowledge to mitigate potential mistakes and have the best possible experiences at their pace.
I personally don’t want to treat teenagers like idiots like a lot of people my age do, because they are not. I was! But in general? They aren’t
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Yeah I have a tendency to try to “fix” people and keep them from making mistakes and I think I’m supposed to learn to leave things be.
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Not even leave things be, really. I disagree with turning a blind eye, but I also disagree with controlling others’ decisions. Arming someone with the knowledge they could benefit from (Like, teaching and talking to people about enthusiastic consent and that they have the power to withdraw consent in any situation if they just don’t feel right) is absolutely fine!
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Yeah that. XD
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I would feel so awkward getting the talk from my parents tho. Like, I don’t wanna have to sit and listen to them explain that stuff…
But sex is kind of necessary to human survival XD It’s literally the only way for the human race to survive/reproduce.
I’ve got nothing against people having sex. They can do it with whoever they want, whenever (with consent obviously) they want. As long as they don’t shame people for not doing the same.
Honestly most people in my class have had sex. A lot of them seemed proud of themselves. Some people will even pay others to do it with them 
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But my sex Ed was pretty bad tbh. I’ll give you a summary of what we covered in class during P6 (that’s the year you start learning about it where I am)
Lesson 1: there’s this thing called sex
Lesson 2: what happens, is the girl has a big hole in her bum.
Lesson 3: the dude sticks his d!ck into said hole
Lesson 4: then these wee things that are always put in the comics as tadpoles shoot out of the d!ck and into the girls womb.
Lesson 5: the speed find an egg, and the lady gets pregnant.
Lesson 6: to stop the lady being pregnant, you stick a plastic bag on your d!ck.
Lesson 7: now, answer all 20 questions on the reproductive cycle
Lesson 8: congratulations! The course has been completed, next year we will be looking at drugs.
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Yeah my p6 teacher was too lazy to actually explain anything
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Totally agree on this, but considering how lowly teachers are valued (monetarily as well as respect-wise), let alone how sex ed/health teachers are considered, it would take a lot of changes to actually do this. But maybe some country can try it out and show the world how much better things would be with better sex education!
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Countries have tried this. There’s a lot of evidence of this working, but you’re just as good at finding this kinda info as me!
It does require massive reform, but you know me. I want Governmental reform, so I’m patient :3
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Bump.
Have sex when you feel you’re ready for it. The concept of virginity is overrated at times. I don’t think people should feel pressured to stay a virgin, nor do I think people should feel like they need to have sex. Whether you’re a virgin or not doesn’t make you “good” or “bad”. 
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I couldn’t agree more! I think being 100% ready is better than being ordered around as there are some idiots that demand sex from you. I know how that feels.
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i heard that if you are a virgin and you put inur first tampon…you lose your virginity and thats why it hurts
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