Okay, this is a pretty personal subject for me. That’s why I wanted to start a discussion about it.
Let’s start with a definition of favoritism: it are behavioral patterns in which certain people give other people certain benefits because they prefer those people. It can be a conscious or unconscious process.
In my opinion it is a somewhat human tendency to do, everyone likes certain people more than other people. However if this is something that’s going on in a business or educational surrounding, if a boss is favoring a certain employee or a teacher is favoring a student, I think it’s an extremely toxic thing and this should be prevented.
Do you guys have any experiences with favoritism? Share your stories here!
About the teacher favouritism. Most of the time (in my experience) the favoured student doesn’t even want to be favoured. The rest of the class starts hating on both the student and teacher.
Favoritism? C a n c e l l e d
I hate it a lot. Sometimes you have to be objective and not judge by how much you like/dislike a person, judge by how well that person does whether you take a liking in them or not.
I haven’t experienced favouritism, quite the opposite actually. It was once in 4th grade when the teacher asked me about that day’s lesson and i hadn’t studied, so i got a C but the rest of the class who didn’t know either didn’t.
In maths class I was my teacher’s favourite student to torture. I hate him. He is so mean to me and gives me way too easy work but then screams at me to do my work when I was already finished.
But if I say I’m finished then he has a ‘chat’ at the end of the class about me being cruel to the other students and it wasn’t nice to rub my success in their face
Favouritism and being the quiet kid go hand in hand unfortunately. It’s more of a curse than a blessing.
Obviously, the idea of being able to do whatever you want without facing consequences from the person/people in charge sounds great but it’s shallow. 9 out of 10 times a teacher only favours a student because they make their jobs easier whether it’s by getting high grades that make it look like the classes are good or in this case, coming across as obedient because the quiet kid doesn’t say a lot. We hate to see it
Long story short favouritism sucks and has no place in schools.
Exactly and being the favourite can suck because not only does it make you look like the teacher’s pet but it makes you feel like a failure every time you mess up the tiniest thing. Children should never have to feel like they’re 100% good or 100% bad.
AJXJHDID, Hate, Hate, hate this!
Just brings people’s self-esteem down!
I had a sub who FREAKIN RUBBED IT IN YOUR FACE ON WHO THEIR FAVOURITE STUDENTS WERE!
(We had him for a few more lessons, yay…)
It didn’t matter if you were his favourite or not, we were all victims. He’d ignore you if he didn’t like you and he’d make you stand at the front of the class to say something if he did. It was annoying and irritating.
He even showed off this one student’s handwriting and-and it was just, awkward for both the student and the class.
I think it’s natural that teachers like some students more than others, or that bosses like some employees more than others. But when it starts to become a problem is when they start treating people unfairly or treating some better than others purely because of that like/dislike.
I have experienced favouritism, both as the favourite and as the non-favourite. I hated being the favourite because I felt an immense pressure to be perfect. I started hating when the teacher would praise anyone else, and I worked harder and harder until I burnt myself out and had to take time off school. It’s toxic for the both favourite and non-favourite, and unprofessional of the teacher.
I think favoritism can be a good thing, like for example teachers could focus on specific struggling students so they can get like proper help. If it’s not for that I dislike favoritism. I think some teachers might favor certain students because they talk a lot and are remembered by the teachers more and do the assignments correctly. Teachers at my school don’t exactly have favorites but tend to talk/listen to more talkative students more, which I’m not.
Bump.
Last year, my nephew was one of my students. Obviously he was my favorite student, but that doesn’t mean that I took sides or only called on him to participate. For example, whenever someone was rude to him, I’d try to make them talk it out and apologize to each other instead of punishing the other kid for being rude to him.
What about LEAST favorite students? Do any of your teachers seem to have one student they can’t stand? It has happened to me, but only when a kid is very rude and disrespectful and sabotages the class on purpose.
