You hate 'em or you hate 'em
Fake friends A common experience one too many people meet. Fake friends are not good for you, take it from me they are not someone good for you ):
Signs of a Fake Friend
- They consistently and constantly lie to you
- They sell you out
- You cannot trust them with anything
- Constantly envious of you and your achievements
- Are constantly critical and purposefully put you down (not as a joke)
- Enjoy gossiping and drama especially pertaining to you
- Selfish, they don’t care about you
- They have no commitment with you or your plans
- Talk about you behind your back
- Only sweet when they need you to do something for them
- Will always prefer other people over you
Of course this doesn’t catch everything and not everything here applies to every relationship but these are definitely good tells of a fake friend.
If you have a fake friend
- Be transparent about how you feel and why
- If they continue after set boundaries set some distance
- Begin to remove them from your life and be clear about why
- Employ the Gray Rock method: “It’s a matter of making yourself as boring, nonreactive and unremarkable as possible — like a gray rock…More importantly, remain as emotionally unresponsive to their pokes and prods as you can possibly allow yourself”
- If they continue to harrass and bother you after you made it clear you don’t want them to be around, block them ad report them
Can a fake friend become a real friend
- Yes but I don’t encourage it, they have to iniate the change on their own
- You trying to change them is more effort that you don’t need to put in
- The longer you spend time with a fake friend, the longer your fake friend boundaries are established, and the harder it becomes to turn a fake friend into a real friend.
Getting over a friend breakup
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Know who your true friends are, connect with them and don’t lose sight of them
- Real friends give us their attention and are present to our needs.
- They support us when we are feeling down.
- True friends are genuine and keep their promises.
- They are there for you even if they can’t get something from you.
- They accept your flaws.
- They actively listen rather than focus on themselves.
- True friends make us want to become better.
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Safe guard your energy, don’t waste it on remiscing or things like that, spend it on people and activities you love
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Let go on the past and focus on the future
Now on to discussing and talking
- Have you had a fake friend?
- How did it impact you?
- What did you do about it?
- How is it impacting you now?
- Any stories or warnings you would like to share?
Love yourself everyone, you deserve it!