Ugh. Just because I’m a girl, why do I have to care about what I wear.
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That everything we do has to revolve around relationships, sex, or romance…
Why can’t we wear cute clothes, do our makeup/hair/nails because we like the way we look? Why do people think we’re getting dressed up for someone?
Or, I seriously hate this one, but when someone texts you something funny, or you’re checking Facebook or Instagram, and you smile at a funny or cute post, and people ask, “Aw, did your boyfriend text you?” Like, what boyfriend? I’m just laughing at a funny post or text!
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Exactly. People just think when you act a bit “feminine” it’s for someone else’s needs rather than your own.
This. 
Men do not center our lives. Why does it always have to be a boyfriend?
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Tell me about it! We only do this for ourselves, not for some guy we like. My dad can be annoying when it comes to me because whenever I want to wear a cute little alice band on my head with my outfit, he instantly think it’s babyish. I tell him that men should stay out of women’s fashion because it’s true, us women barely play fashion police on guys, right?
YES OMG! Not everything is about relationships. Honestly, we are allowed to laugh or smile at a text or post on our phones, it doesn’t mean our partner has sent a cute message or something.
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“I wouldn’t do that! I have a boyfriend!”
Seriously, peeps I’m friends with say this all the time and I’m just the single Pringle being like “maybe I do, maybe I don’t.” 
For women to be the perfect mother. News flash its hard to look after kids 24/7. You suddenly become isolated from your friends. You have someone depending on you for comfort, protection warmth. It’s sad really women are also expected to work when having a kid changes something inside you. You want to spend time with the little person you carried inside you for 9 months.
Not to mention the toll it takes on women mental health.
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WomenBUMP 
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You want long legs but not a tol woman 
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You want big 
but no fat 
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Trust me there’s negativity from both sides, I have hourglass/Wide hips/big butt. And many people think it’s so great. IT’S NOT.
I grew up wanting to be skinnier/less thick because I hated the attention my body got me, I still do. I matured physically way faster than the other girls in my class and that granted multiple sexual comments and unwanted sexual attention. I can blatantly remember 6th grade and random boys just coming up and full on grabbing my a** or slapping it.
And when I complained it was. "Oh your a thick girl, You should be grateful men/boys love your body and give you all of that attention. THAT’S THE POINT, I DON’T WANT TO BE FETISHIZED FOR MY BODY. I got stared at and sexually harassed by adult men past 30+ It’s horrid.
You get called a whre/slt if you reject a man’s advances, I had an ex-friend literally tell me I’d be a great p*rnstar because of my body. And I was underage- It was traumatizing and genuinely disgusting.
PLEASE LOVE YOURSELF AND YOUR BODY.
There is no perfect body, Every woman gets slack no matter what. It’s the disgusting way of many men and women too.
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I couldn’t agree more.
I suffer from bulimia because of the pressure I received from the Bangladeshi community and my ex-boyfriend (he was so freaking controlling)!! They look down on me just because I do not conform to the Bangladeshi culture and they think I’m less of a woman, just because I wear more Western clothes than Asian clothes (I can’t wear them due to traumatic experiences).
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Wowww, Culture honestly affects a-lot of women too it’s disgusting! I’m so sorry you had to go through that you are absolutely beautiful!!! 
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Tell me about it!
I found it insulting that my ex said that I look like this Lebanese porn star which given me really bad body image issues. He’s a bat soup (toxic mofo)!
Honestly, the pressure I get from these fools sicken me. I’m my own person, they can’t change me. I make the changes, not them!
Thank you
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I should’ve replied with something sarcastic. I don’t think pornstars can eat 24/7 and nap. But hey if they have a subscription for that sign me up. 
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I’d rather eat and nap than be a pornstar.
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Honestly, I just ate a big tray of wings and funnel cake fries. Needed
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Ooooh yummy!!! I’m hungry now!!
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The black bisexual feminist in me is happy.
I totally agree with this. For years I’ve been wearing baggy clothes and have only recently started “dressing up more” (aka, wearing skirts, crop tops, dresses, etc) because of self-esteem issues (which I still have, nice clothes, hair, and makeup don’t do much) and because of harassment and objectification that I still experience to this day. Even dressing up is still deemed as “not good” in my culture because when I do get harassed, I often get told that I deserve it. My mom once told me that I needed to cover up my breasts (they’re “big”) when most of the time I am not wearing “inappropriate” clothing… I was often wearing a school uniform. And yet I was blamed for the harassment/abuse that I was subjected to— but that’s a different cake slice for another party. See, I will never be fully ok with my body and that’s not meant to be a negative thing- I simply have issues with the way I see my body that I can’t change. Now that I think about it, “thick” is something that people have used to describe my body, by that I mean my close friends who do their best to get my body-love-meter up. I’m not completely skinny, but I am quite curvy, you could say, thanks to the great blessing named puberty. I do not want to go outside every damn day and have to dress like it’s Black Friday just so I don’t get harassed and/or even disrespected for the way I look. That’s outta my control. However, certain men/boys’ actions should be too.
Thank you for attending my TED Talk. Love y’all.
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YES. THIS. YOU MADE EVERY POINT!
All the women in my family are curvaceous as-well. Same build- Thick thighs, wide hips etc.
I’ve been betrayed by genetics-
Regardless I’m so sorry you had to face that! My pm is always open for a good talk or virtual cry! 
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I feeel sooo fullll send help.