Now I can be blunt and say things how I see them. This can definitely come across as rude in certain situations which makes it hard to tell the difference. Sometimes people just don’t have a filter. Sometimes people really don’t think before they speak 
. I think it’s easier online cause you can read what you wrote before you hit send although even that isn’t a great way cause if you don’t see anything wrong in what you said then how are you supposed to know how another person might feel
But I think my way of telling the difference is “would I like it if someone said this to me?” Unforunately I only think of that after 
. I swear I’m improving .
big mouth strikes again
But anyway how do you tell the difference?
Also I don’t go out of my way to make someone feel bad! Most of the time it’s unintentional unless I’m mad but even then Idk the full extent of what I’m doing. Not making excuses! It’s not pleasent but at least I don’t walk up to people and start bashing them. Unless they’ve upset me 
which is still not a good thing! Well I still don’t go up to them it more just we’ll have a conversation, they upset me, I say something mean, I regret it forever and ever and ever…
WAIT WHAT THE HELL AM I ON ABOUT
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I can put my foot in my mouth occasionally, but it can generally help to just be more eloquent in day-to-day life. You’ll have less misunderstandings that way
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Blunt has a message in it regardless of how you phrase it. Rude has no message because it’s just insults
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That’s a very good way of phrasing it
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I feel like bluntness kinda doesn’t have a filter, while rudeness is more intentional with the intent to hurt people’s feelings.
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Yes, intentions do have alot to do with it like calling someone ugly is rude because there is nothing good that can come from it. It just brings them down.
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I am very blunt. I never mean to be rude, but a lot of people take me that way. The problem is that I consider it kind to just tell people what I think rather than beating around the bush. I never mean to hurt them!
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Lol I’m awfully blunt most of the time but there are times I’m rude AF on purpose. But I was told that I am more assertive.
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How about I list some statements and you can tell me if they are blunt or rude:
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Your outfit looks awful, did you get dressed in the dark?
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I wasn’t keen on the way you were singing, do you have a sore throat?
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I got bored while reading your story
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You did that wrong you were supposed to…
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Yes I agree! Although I do see how those could be misinterpreted.
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Usually is someone is blunt they will give you some advises on how to be better, when people who’re just insulting and shaming you are rude.
I’m pretty blunt if I say so myself especially IRL as I usually just say what comes to mind , but depending on who I’m with. I might adjust the way I’m phrasing my message.
Rude unless someone asked for your opinion about the outfit.
Blunt.
Blunt.
Blunt.
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the “did you get dressed in the dark” is pretty much never something that someone would say even as a blunt thing, at least in my opinion
“your outfit looks awful” by itself could really be either
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That second part of the sentence is indeed a bit uneeded and can come across as rude , but I think if I were to ask someone what they think about my outfit and they replied “Your outfit looks awful” . I wouldn’t see that as being rude and more as being blunt as I did ask for their opinion about the way I dressed. Bluntness isn’t about being or polite or helpful it’s about saying what comes to mind whether that is positive or negative.
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yeah, i think asking is definitely important context for the rude vs. blunt
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Yeah that’s why I stated unless someone asked for your opinion as I do agree that context matters. As well as intent as I can see the statement “Your outfit looks awful , did you get dressed in the dark” in a joking manner as well when talking to a friend.
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oh yeah this didn’t even bring up jokes. those are definitely worth considering.
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oh wait someone tell me lmao 'cause sometimes I think I’m being blunt but then my sister says I’m being rude
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I think that can be incredibly hard to tell the difference between the two of them. There’s a fine line, and rude is and will always be based on social customs. Someone can be rude unintentionally, which kind of proves that it’s not just based on the intentions of the person saying the things. Some things, however, definitely come off one way or another. I’d argue the main difference is the purpose, though, since blunt comments aren’t meant to hurt the people who receive them.
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