But there’s no reason to be shy about random questions 
they’re always rad! 
And you could also try stalking reading through a person’s profile to find common interests you can talk about
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In regards to the self centred thing I’ll give an example
Person: Somebody was mean about my hair today
Me: has had countless experiences of people bring mean about my hair ah that really sucks! People used to be mean about my hair too so I know it’s not a rad feeling, do you wanna talk about it?
(So you see I gave them something to relate to while letting them know I understand how they feel but I didn’t presume exactly how they felt by projecting my own feelings onto them, but anyone being mean about anything doesn’t give a rad feeling, then I give them the space to talk by asking them a question)
If they do want to talk about it then give them space to talk, listen to them and if they say anything where you think the same/similar thing happened to you then try not to completely take the story away from them just say “ugh yeah something similar happened to me, people really oughta think before they speak”
Then once they have finished and got everything off their chest, say what happened to you with a bunch of laughing emojis to show that you’re over it and feel good now and it may make them think “Oooo maybe one day I’ll laugh about it to”
If you ever feel bad about what happened to you then maybe don’t bring it up while another person is talking about what makes them feel bad, just wait for your chance, you will get a chance. But it is important you give your friend a space to open up to you and they will ideally reciprocate that when you want to talk.
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a dead potato 
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Then they’ll know I’m a stalker 
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Rad example, your social skills are definitely better than those of a dead potato 
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Doesn’t everyone already know that tho? Impress them with your stalking skills
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My social skills actually suck this doesn’t come naturally, it comes from experience and observing the way people react to certain things over time you learn what people do and don’t like then you know how to handle a conversation with them it can go wrong for me if I’m presented with a situation I have no experience or observations with.
It’s easier through message for me than it is with talking so I can be like “this person doesn’t like long paragraphs”, “this person is a slow replier so don’t take it personally if they don’t respond straight away”, “this person is having a bad day but pretending that they aren’t so they may seem a little different, don’t pressure them to talk about it”
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Mine too, but improving them through observations is exactly what we’re supposed to do
Just make sure that you still stay true to yourself while you try to make a conversation more comfortable for the other person
I’m still terrible at knowing when a person has a bad day, so I usually just hope that the other person will either tell me or avoid talking about it
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hi
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I always do I adapt to conversations but it’s always the true me 
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Lol i needed this, even tho irl I’m kinda good at keeping conversations, online I suck at them and most of the time I don’t know what to say after “hi, how are you” lmao
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GREAT tips that I will never ever use…Um I’m only dry because I hate small talk. Small talk is a waste to me and if you don’t have an in depth theory on the real reason why we have the ability to be conscious, don’t say anything to me. Conversations are pretty pointless tbh unless it’s deep and conceptual so being dry and socially awkward is something I don’t ever wanna have to improve on more than I need. 
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stop attacc 
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I don’t think it’s that useless, though it is a way of communication and it also encourages the increase of two or more people’s relationship xD
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Going off-topic is good you get to explore more of your interests naturally. Don’t feel the need to stick to one topic.
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Unless it’s a public thread
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(and if you go off topic there, you can still ask a staff member to move it to an existing or new thread)
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Oh, I thought this was meant specifically in pms
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This was meant in any conversation, but more focused on PM’s because I’m a passive aggressive potato
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Ohhhhhh 
I just assumed because most conversations happen in pms or spam threads imo
But yeah, don’t go off topic unless it’s on a spam thread with no topic
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