Tips for having a rad conversation that doesn't die after 3 messages! ✨

Because I feel like some people really need this… :eyes::eyes:

Everything I say is just my opinion, so you’re free to disagree or ignore it. I just want to help people who seem to not be able to have a conversation to save their lives. :eyes::eyes:
Please note that this is more for casual conversations (like between friends on the forums for example), but I guess most of these tips apply for more formal conversations too. :eyes::sparkles:

So, let’s start with the most important thing:

1. Don’t be a dry texter

Dry texters are the most exhausting and frustrating people ever for me, because while I still feel the need to reply, I just don’t know how to. They usually answer all your questions with “yes”,“no”,“lol”,“lmao” or other one word replies, which usually don’t contribute anything to the conversation and often makes others feel like they don’t care.

Example

Person A: Do you like ice cream?

Person B: Yes.

Person A: ~ desperately trying to think of something to say to that ~

So what can you do if you notice that you’re a dry texter?
Try to make your replies longer, so the other person has something to reply to. Maybe give a reason for why you agree or disagree with a statement. If you don’t know what else you can contribute to the topic other than a one word reply, try to switch topics by asking the other person some questions!

Example

Person A: Do you like ice cream?

Person B: Yes! Especially mint ice cream! Have you ever tried it?

Person A: No! Is there any brand you’d recommend me to try?

See how the conversation seems to flow more? It’s much easier to have a conversation when you either reply in whole sentences or ask a new question to expand on the topic.

2. Don’t ignore the other person’s questions!

It’s okay if it happens unintentionally, but some people seem to never answer what someone asks them, no matter what the question is about. If you feel uncomfortable with answering something, simply say that so the other person won’t try to dig deeper.

3. Don’t be too self centered!

I’m kinda guilty of this sometimes, because I love talking about things I’ve experienced when I get the chance to. But if the conversation isn’t about you, you should maybe not write a three page essay about why you’re so great if the other person didn’t ask you for that. Try to make the other person more involved in the conversation too, so it won’t be a one sided conversation where you do all the talking and expect the other person to listen. Asking some questions about the other person can help with avoiding this!

4. Don’t do anything you wouldn’t want other people to do to you!

If you don’t like it when others make fun of you, don’t make fun of the others. It’s simple as that.

5. How long you take to reply

If you don’t like waiting for a reply for too long, make sure to reply to your messages as quickly as possible, so you won’t be a hypocrite and the other person can text back faster/earlier. If you don’t mind having to wait for a while and sometimes take ages to reply, make sure to let the other person know that you still care about the conversation but just need some time to reply (I suck at this part, sorry for taking ages to reply to some of you!), so the other person won’t simply assume that you ghosted them.

6. Pick a topic you’re both comfortable with!

The most awkward conversations are those where you don’t know what to contribute or don’t feel comfortable to speak about the discussed topic. If you feel like a conversation is going into a direction you don’t feel comfortable with, make sure to tell the other person and switch the topic to something you’re both okay with!

7. Just be yourself (unless you can be a duck, then be a duck)

Most people want to know the real you and not some fake version of you! By being yourself, you also make sure that your friends like you for who you really are and not for the image you’ve created for them! This doesn’t mean that you have to reveal everything about yourself, but just don’t lie to seem more likeable!

I hope this helped and thank you for reading so far!

Do you have any other tips?
Please try not to be too rude or disrespectful towards others since this thread is supposed to be helpful! :pleading_face:

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OMGOGMG HANNAAA THENK FOR THE THREAD SM I REALLY NEED IT TO SOCIALIZE MORE :cowboy_hat_face::+1:

No because i suck at starting/keeping up convos so you really wouldnt want a tip from me smh :grinning:

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I honestly need this :joy::sob: I’m literally the worst person to have conversations with. I never know how to reply to something, so I usually just say ‘lol’ or ‘cool’ :pleading_face:

Well, if I see the conversation is becoming dry reallyyyyyyyy quickly, I usually suggest a game, like t or d, or 20 questions :relieved: or, which I learned from a friend, just suggest quizzes haha. Normally you’ll have a lot to talk ab, especially if you both got different results. I hope this helps someone who’s terrible at conversations like me :smiley:

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But-

I am an awkward antisocial dry texter :sob:

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I’m doomed

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Another tip I have is to just be honest, I’m sure we all have moments where we don’t have the energy to talk to somebody, I would rather them tell me that they just need some private chill time than painfully try to keep a conversation alive. Obviously I’d be there for them if they wanted to tell me what was up but there are times when I don’t want to talk to people and just want to watch some videos.

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I’ve had rad conversations with you before, you’re a rad texter :pleading_face::green_heart::eyes::sparkles:

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Only sometimes :sneezing_face:

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Sometimes is more than enough. At least I can see that you care about the conversation :pleading_face::green_heart::eyes::sparkles:

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I do find that some people do just lack confidence like @passionfruit (I’m calling you out bro) is always saying she’s bad at conversations when she really isn’t :joy:


You don’t need to be the one to start every conversation but if you contribute to it in a way that the other person can respond to what you said (so you don’t just shut down the conversation by saying something like “ah rad”) then that’s a good conversation

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Vouch

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This is why I’m sometimes afraid of sharing my experiences lol :sob:

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@Utensils hi

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:sob:

You’re calling me out hi

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It’s okay to share your experiences, but make sure to not only talk about yourself or ask the other person to share some of their experiences too :eyes::eyes:

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Our pm has been going on for a while now, you’re radder at conversations than you think :eyes::eyes::green_heart:

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Yeah true, but that’s because you taught me to keep asking questions :star_struck:

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At least you’re willing to learn something to improve and it really worked :star_struck::green_heart::eyes::sparkles:

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looking back at this, this thread is probably just 99% me being passive aggressive about people complaining that staff don’t reply to them when they have the conversational abilities of a dead potato :eyes::eyes:

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It did :star_struck: but tbh I’m too shy to ask other people random questions so my conversations die :pensive:

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