Because I feel like some people really need this…
Everything I say is just my opinion, so you’re free to disagree or ignore it. I just want to help people who seem to not be able to have a conversation to save their lives.
Please note that this is more for casual conversations (like between friends on the forums for example), but I guess most of these tips apply for more formal conversations too.
So, let’s start with the most important thing:
1. Don’t be a dry texter
Dry texters are the most exhausting and frustrating people ever for me, because while I still feel the need to reply, I just don’t know how to. They usually answer all your questions with “yes”,“no”,“lol”,“lmao” or other one word replies, which usually don’t contribute anything to the conversation and often makes others feel like they don’t care.
Example
Person A: Do you like ice cream?
Person B: Yes.
Person A: ~ desperately trying to think of something to say to that ~
So what can you do if you notice that you’re a dry texter?
Try to make your replies longer, so the other person has something to reply to. Maybe give a reason for why you agree or disagree with a statement. If you don’t know what else you can contribute to the topic other than a one word reply, try to switch topics by asking the other person some questions!
Example
Person A: Do you like ice cream?
Person B: Yes! Especially mint ice cream! Have you ever tried it?
Person A: No! Is there any brand you’d recommend me to try?
See how the conversation seems to flow more? It’s much easier to have a conversation when you either reply in whole sentences or ask a new question to expand on the topic.
2. Don’t ignore the other person’s questions!
It’s okay if it happens unintentionally, but some people seem to never answer what someone asks them, no matter what the question is about. If you feel uncomfortable with answering something, simply say that so the other person won’t try to dig deeper.
3. Don’t be too self centered!
I’m kinda guilty of this sometimes, because I love talking about things I’ve experienced when I get the chance to. But if the conversation isn’t about you, you should maybe not write a three page essay about why you’re so great if the other person didn’t ask you for that. Try to make the other person more involved in the conversation too, so it won’t be a one sided conversation where you do all the talking and expect the other person to listen. Asking some questions about the other person can help with avoiding this!
4. Don’t do anything you wouldn’t want other people to do to you!
If you don’t like it when others make fun of you, don’t make fun of the others. It’s simple as that.
5. How long you take to reply
If you don’t like waiting for a reply for too long, make sure to reply to your messages as quickly as possible, so you won’t be a hypocrite and the other person can text back faster/earlier. If you don’t mind having to wait for a while and sometimes take ages to reply, make sure to let the other person know that you still care about the conversation but just need some time to reply (I suck at this part, sorry for taking ages to reply to some of you!), so the other person won’t simply assume that you ghosted them.
6. Pick a topic you’re both comfortable with!
The most awkward conversations are those where you don’t know what to contribute or don’t feel comfortable to speak about the discussed topic. If you feel like a conversation is going into a direction you don’t feel comfortable with, make sure to tell the other person and switch the topic to something you’re both okay with!
7. Just be yourself (unless you can be a duck, then be a duck)
Most people want to know the real you and not some fake version of you! By being yourself, you also make sure that your friends like you for who you really are and not for the image you’ve created for them! This doesn’t mean that you have to reveal everything about yourself, but just don’t lie to seem more likeable!
I hope this helped and thank you for reading so far!
Do you have any other tips?
Please try not to be too rude or disrespectful towards others since this thread is supposed to be helpful!