Anonymous Confessions 3.0 🤐

[Divcp]

Guys can we like cool down for some time? It feels more like arguing than discussing now and its kind of getting oit of hand

[ChaoticDeluge]

Been out of hand for a while, but I guess we’re just going crazy

[ShanniiWrites]

@idiot.exe

@ShanniiWrites

And finally: I’m gonna confess to my own struggles in a confessions thread. Since it seems no one bloody listens to me when I put it elsewhere

This was nothing to do with the matter? This was just me getting really upset? I mean, the rest of the confession implies that there’s a lot of other stuff going on in my life that I was referring to? In fact, the whole comment about no one listening to me was in reference to something else? @ChaoticDeluge can vouch for me on that one since:

[Duckling]

Attacking people isn’t going to bring us anywhere
We’re all just tired of trying to explain our points

[ChaoticDeluge]

And yet everyone keeps trying to…

Nah, it won’t but it feels good

[idiot.exe]

Yeah, it really did escalate too much for a simple confession. I wasn’t arguing (at least I don’t think so), I’m perfectly calm and I just want to state my opinions.
I don’t think there’s a need to shut down the thread though, it was just handled really poorly this time. I will just keep stalking though

[Duckling]

Just make sure that it doesn’t turn into something rule breaking then

I missed half of my online class for this

[idiot.exe]

Alright, it seems I misunderstood. I thought it was referring to the whole topic because it was posted along with it.

[Duckling]

@ShanniiWrites

This was nothing to do with the matter? This was just me getting really upset? I mean, the rest of the confession implies that there’s a lot of other stuff going on in my life that I was referring to? In fact, the whole comment about no one listening to me was in reference to something else? @ChaoticDeluge can vouch for me on that one since:

But you can’t expect people to know the context for something they have no way of reading unless you share it

[ChaoticDeluge]

She said she wanted to confess her own issues… Literally giving context…

[ShanniiWrites]

But what about the bEnEfIt Of ThE dOuBt, huh? I mean, I’ve clearly got a lot going on in my life, as I keep saying. I’ve been very upfront with that and its still true that I shouldn’t have my feelings pushed aside whether I was referring to stuff in my own personal life or the response of people telling me I need to put the confessor’s feelings before my own.

But they get the benefit of the doubt when they actually do something that hurts the forums, but I don’t when I just say I’m tired of my feelings getting pushed aside?

[Bonswayout]

I’m looking at both sides of the story. I agree with Elanor and Deluge this has gone on for days.
Shanniiwrites was hurt in this situation. She deserved some clousre on the whole situation and the confessor gave her an apology about the whole situation. It was rude to say something, especially not reading the rules about promoting a new forum.
She works hard on the forum.

But I also agree with duckling, we were not given any links or a name of the forum, only a suggestion of what it could be.
I do not think the confessor meant harm at all.
They provided no links or name to their forum
They were asking if it was a good idea and if someone would be interested. They couldn’t have edited their reply either if someone wanted to join.

I do admit I kind of dragged the situation on, based on my own opinion at the start of this, but after seeing what Elanor said about the situation I agreed with her, this has been going on for days and we should forget about it.

I do understand Shannii standing up for herself, I feel her reply is normal and not a drag on because the situation was already being dragged on.
I do feel some things about all this, but I don’t wish to drag this on any further.
Shannii’s feelings were hurts and the confessers

Also I don’t think the thread needs to be shut down
Secretz works hard on it and he handles situations very well. I just don’t think he thought that the confession was bad.

[Duckling]

Which she did. People can choose to reply to it or not, but spoon interpreted it as something related to the other matter.

Of course we all care about Shannii, but we are still not obligated to reply to her confession. Especially if we don’t know how to react in a way that won’t make her feel worse

[ShanniiWrites]

Yeah also this. Like, I said “my own personal struggles in a confessions thread”. I didn’t say “I want to confess why the confessor was wrong and I was right.” I didn’t even mention the situation in that response, but it’s still being used to try to invalidate me and defend someone who accidentally almost hurt the forums?

[Divcp]

@Bonswayout

Also I don’t think the thread needs to be shut down
Secretz works hard on it and he handles situations very well. I just don’t think he thought that the confession was bad.

Ikrrrr

[ChaoticDeluge]

You did respond though, misunderstanding it when context was given.

For people saying you wanna stop dragging it out, maybe stop

[idiot.exe]

That wasn’t my intention. I made it clear it was a misunderstanding.

[ShanniiWrites]

So when the confessor actively does something to hurt the forums, people bend over backwards to explain how it’s actually a suggestion. But when I say I want to confess my personal feelings, it’s very quickly decided that I was, what? What exactly was wrong with what I said there?

[ChaoticDeluge]

Wasn’t talking to you

[idiot.exe]

Aand I misunderstood again-