Don’t worry, I was the same. The thing is, we acted like this because this concept of femininity was pushed onto us when we were kids…you know, people would expect girls to be wearing pink clothing with high heels and full face of makeup but in reality, we are all built differently. I feel that people love to throw around the definition of femininity like hotcakes with their ideology if you get what I am trying to say here.
Sometimes, it could be pushed onto us. I know some girls (including myself) were forced into wearing clothing that was considered culturally traditional. You see, I stand against traditionalism because of how I was brought up, I was told that I’d look feminine/prettier if I:
Wear traditional clothing like saree and salwar kameez
Tie my hair up (I’ve always hated having my hair up because it destroys my confidence)
Be really really slim (they think that having some meat on your body is considered less feminine)
Have my ears pierced
Stay at home and be a mother
Ironic enough, I don’t fit into these stereotypes and I’m sure you’d feel the pressure from people like them. Especially from the old generation, they see us youngsters as a threat for expressing our individuality.
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I think my next poem will be talking about internalised misogyny. I’ll need an appropriate title for it!
Yess, there’s so much pushed onto us, even telling us that we should be more mature and kind, while guys can get away with anything because “boys will be boys”. Tbh I guess I just wanted to be seen as cool, and girls never really get that chance. From a young age we’re taught that masculinity is so much better, even the strong female characters are often masculine
I’m sorry you had to feel so pressured though, I hate when people are being forced into things
Tell me about it! I find it hard to say “boys will be boys” in a lighthearted way because people would justify disgusting actions that were done by boys such as bullying you for no apparent reason, this doesn’t mean that they fancy (British slang for taking a liking to) you. Bullies should be held accountable for their actions, not the victim!
That’s so true. Like when you’re around that age, you fear femininity because of how it’s all been pushed onto you when you’re a kid.
Since I was a kid, I’ve never liked Disney princesses (I still don’t) because this thing is pushed onto me when I was younger which is why I hated wearing makeup. I still got hate for liking Pokemon because apparently, it’s for boys! Anyone can like Pokemon.
You can still be a feminine woman and like Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and like makeup and cute dresses. You can be a masculine man and like getting your eyebrows done and wear cologne. There is no such thing as lacking masculinity and femininity.
When I was 7, I used to love that colour until I suddenly get into my tomboy phase. But being a tomboy has no age, I’m 27 and is still a tomboy.
Exactly! I really hate things being gendered into masculine and feminine. It’s really problematic.
The worst part with misogyny, is that women get judged no matter if they’re too masculine or feminine. I’ve gotten judged for playing videogames (which is somehow masculine) just as much as I’ve been judged for liking fashion (which is somehow feminine), there’s just no end to it
That’s cool!
I personally was a tomboy when I was younger, but now I don’t want labels like that for myself
And dude2 is a way better person that dude1 and is shown to actually care about her and try to make her be herself more but then again she’s different she’s not like other girls and so she chooses the toxic one.
and reject everything and anything feminine because ‘ew girly’
she’s not 
like 
other girls and so she chooses the toxic one.