Yes, it is. Once a kid is born, there is now an endless consciousness a body will have to live with for a very long time. That’s a serious thing to have to work with for over a decade.
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I’ve never wanted biological children, but the idea of adoption in the far future always seemed appealing to me. However, even before I consider children at all, I would want to be certain that I have the stability and capacity to take care of them and provide them with the love they deserve. I wouldn’t want to repeat the same mistakes my parents made with me, either.
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Maybe. I always used to lean towards no because I felt that I would not be in a position (emotionally or financially) to take care of a child when I already struggle to look after myself. So to put that on an innocent child would be just cruel. Although as my mental health improved over the years, I could see myself with or without a child but it would depend on how my life is going. There’s a lot I want to do before I can even consider that. I’m also terrible at scolding kids so I wouldn’t know how to discipline a child since I’m terrified of scarring/traumatising children.
Raising children is a serious duty, once you decide to bring a child into this world you’re fully responsible for them and their well-being. That doesn’t just mean feeding them and meeting their basic needs but ensuring their emotional needs are met so they don’t end up suffering from childhood trauma/scars. Respect to the people who commit to raising kids but also respect to the people who recognise that they would be unfit parents and choose not to put a child through that.
The idea that we should have kids is such an outdated and entitled point of view. We don’t owe this universe or anyone anything, we especially don’t have to bring a child into this world if we don’t want to or don’t feel we are equipped to. Some of us aren’t financially stable enough, some of us aren’t emotionally/mentally stable enough and even if some of us are both, some people just don’t want kids and that’s perfectly fine. There are plenty of people who want them and are capable of having them.
Whether we want to have kids or not, it is our decision and no one has the right to force it upon us. I have too many friends with relatives who try to pressure the idea onto them and have met plenty of people who tried to pressure it onto me and friends of mine who don’t want one. Why would you want someone to have a kid if they won’t raise them properly? That child won’t grow up happy, they will be scarred and traumatised, possibly for the rest of their life.
Also as my dear friend Cat pointed out, the world is overpopulated and the idea that everyone needs to reproduce is unjustified. If you want to have kids, cheers, if you don’t, cheers to you too. I just don’t think this decision is as simple as waking up and deciding what you want for lunch today.
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I haven’t wanted kids ever since I found out about pregnancy & childbirth! Scares the living daylights out of me. Also, I am not child oriented - I would rather have 4 legged furry children.
WE ALL LOVE FOUR-LEGGED FURRY CHILDREN
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