I have no idea how exactly I choose mine but I seem to choose the right people most of the time somehow 
So, how do you choose your friends?
Are there any specific things people have to fulfill to be chosen as your friend?
Do you think that youâre good at choosing your friends?
Usually people become my friends when I simply have a good time talking to them, haha, itâs a feeling itâs nothing you can really put in words in my opinionâŚ
Iâve never chosen my friends because Iâm super shy around new people. So I befriend anyone who approaches me and that technique has worked surprisingly well. I have some greaaat friends. We donât see each other that often but we never seem to lose contact.
I just talked to a friend today after not hearing from each other since the beginning of the quarantine and we were talking like we always do. I expect her to sent me some art next week that she has been working on for over a year lol because she refuses to let me see them now. 
I like my friends mature, but fun at the same time. Also people with whom I can be very honest, and who are honest with me. I donât mean the âim-sharing-all-my-secrets-with-youâ type of honesty but like a daily honesty, when we donât surgarcoat crap.
I think Iâm good at choosing friends, now at least. The one thing I learned is that you should trust your gut. Even if I donât have anything against the person at the moment and they seem friendly, but if I feel some kind of âŚI dunno. Like I canât trust them. I wonât.
Letâs just say that I treat this like some job interview. I try getting to know the person and see if theyâre mature enough to be friends with me like see if they are able to accept the conditions I give them such as âDo not talk about politics 24/7â or bring up certain topics that may be very sensitive to me. It annoys me when people base their friendships over political opinions. Canât we all just get along?
Hmm⌠For me I either immediately click with people, or I donât. I mean I have developed friendships with people, but most of the time I just know when I meet them 
We kind of just understand each other and talking to each other is easy, and isnât forced or anything
Not really. But I donât spend that much time talking to others or trying to make friends. So I usually end up friends with the people that wonât leave me alone. I eventually grow to love them as a sibling.
I donât choose them I just get stuck with them somehow but I love it
I donât. I just talk with people and if we click then we click. Friendship for me goes two ways, 'cause you both have to put in the effort into keeping in touch and wanting to talk to the other. It doesnât matter if you donât speak every day, just that itâs not only one person doing all the work. (wink)
Thereâs a lengthy application process. You donât know youâre taking it, but itâs there!
People tell me a lot Iâm a pretty extroverted indivual. So I usually find myself talking and cracking jokes with a lot of people.
But for me, Iâd say I have a few close friends rather than a bunch of friends. To me, friends are people you need to be able to trust. Theyâre people you can easily talk to about anything, not fake or manipulative or controlling or mentally abusive. In any relationship really, no one should ever be controlling the other. Theyâre also good with not having to speak every day and suddenly question, âoh man goodnessâŚshe ainât my friend no moreâŚshes backstabbing meâŚâ so back to that trust thing XD but defintely work on both sides, and talking just comes naturally. Theyâre ok with your weirdness, your quirks, and your flaws. And theyâre there for you
I usually wait for them to approach me but when Iâm on my drugs I muster every ounce of courage the divine being above has bestowed on me and I approach them. If I start having a conversation in my head then I know we ainât gonna last but if I am truly invested Iâll talk and if itâs easy to communicate with the person without having to constantly check myself and surroundings then I know we are going to be friends.
I feel like half of the time I donât pick my friends, my friends claim me. At least thatâs how it was with one friend I made in high school. Weâre very opposite. She is more extroverted and not calm or focused at all. We talked some and she kinda claimed me. People who are not calm and focused like I am seem to be drawn towards me for some reasonâŚ
Mainly though, I donât really look to make friends. Some Iâve made because they lived across the street from me so we would play together, then a couple of guys, that are kinda like siblings for me, I know because our moms know each other. Otherwise it takes me a while to be comfortable around someone. It takes quite a while of just talking and finding common interests for me to start thinking of them as a friend. (But I also count people as acquaintances at a point when most would say friends)
my taste in friends has definitely been iffy over the years lol ik that
now i just look for loyal and accountable ppl who i vibe with
well said
Bump!
Okay, so either I approach her/him or he/she approaches me but if we have a good connection towards each other and we understand each otherâs problems. We have to act like our normal selves and not trying to impress each other by acting like someone else. If they are a true friend and not someone who goes behind your back to gossip. If they avoid conversations were people talk about me and if they are someone that cares about me and can risk anything to protect me and keep me happy. I look at their personality basically when choosing friends. If we help each other through struggles, when we need a shoulder to cry on, someone to laugh with or when we are angry at someone. Of course, when it comes to friendship, there are different responsibilities we have, we always know that there will be an argument one way or the other but it shouldnât escalate to cause a problem. You need a friend who you can share your secrets with and make sure it is secured. You need a friend who wouldnât judge you for anything you do. Overall, you need a friend who will be with you through every step you go through. 
I want to say more but this is enough! 
Iâm very picky with it comes to friends, thatâs why I donât have friends in the first place lol.
I donât think there are specific things as a trait, as long as youâre nice to me, theb youâre fine.
And no, Iâm horrible at choosing friends.
We arenât friends? 
This is quite an interesting one because Iâve spent time with no friends so I got to a stage where anyone would become my friend if they just let me sit with them that resulted in me landing in a few toxic friendships which I got out of too late.
But now after learning, I do have some specifications:
I donât care about being texted back right away or being left on read. Itâs the way I feel after they do it. If I feel âoh yeah fair enough they probably donât have the energy to text back right nowâ and I genuinely feel that way, then they go up in the friendship book. If I feel stressed and paranoid then I need to think of why they are making me feel that way.
Ideally we should have at least some common interests, I donât demand everybody likes the same things as me. More just that they arenât rude to me if I do have different interests.
They donât f*ck with my head. Being social is hard enough for me anyway since itâs tiring, Iâm overthinking, I donât actually know whatâs going on half the time.
They respect my personal boundries, I had this problem with a small group of friends and despite the amount of times I said âI donât like being touched and Iâm not great with loud noisesâ they proceeded to poke me, screech and hug me 
They make me feel included, they ask me for my opinions or they invite me to stuff instead of just assuming Iâll say no. They listen to me when Iâm talking just like I listen to them.
They donât make comments on my eating or food choices while Iâm eating or put any pressure on me or stress while I am eating. I know I look weird eating in public, thatâs because I hate it I have to eat slowly so I can keep it down.
They donât attempt to âone upâ me all the time
If they fit this, they are probably gonna be people I hold close.
lmao