It does help. Thank you for sharing that with me!
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I have a similar process. In my experience, journaling my thoughts has helped a lot. Even if you are numb and not feeling much, just writing a sentence or two can really be helpful. I think journaling could help you, as it has helped me a lot. But, itās really up to you because you know you best.
As always, if you need someone to talk to, my PMs are always open. 
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Maybe that can help, that writing stuff down can be a way to let my thoughts out and prevent the numbness from happening. I think I will be trying this!
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I still need to vent. Idk why this sh^t bothers me honestly, I didnāt anything wrong. But, my best friend told me heās liked me for 6 years and yesterday he asked me to be his valentine. Guess whoās demi-pansexual?! This human! So, yeah, I donāt like him back and donāt know if could ever. I just donāt like him like that. I also said no to being his valentineā¦I donāt regret a thing but I just feel bad.
End Results: depressed, hating myself, and hating my sexuality.
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I once had a friend that I thought had a crush on me, and that made me kinda uncomfortable. Like we were kinda new to being close and he saw it in a different way than I did. I didnāt like being close to him and being the only one heād talk to because we had different interests, and I tend to go for people who are similar to me. I didnāt want to reject him so I just ended up distancing myself from him. I didnāt reach out to him and I stopped hanging out with him like one-on-one and started hanging out more in groups and talking to other people. He moved on. Later another friend told me that he did indeed have a crush on me.
Iām also ace so that wouldnāt have worked lol.
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That happened to me too! I sorta, maybe, stopped being friends with him. Iām just trying to put some distance cause, tbh, our friendship wasnāt supposed to last this long. I probably sound crazy, but like itās a system thatās complicated.
Heyyyy Iām aro or ase too! I kinda used demi for a bit of hope but it aināt true.
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I just want to say, for anyone struggling with anything mentally, just remember that all of us are here for you! Whether itās something small or something huge, we all support you here.
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Hello! (Why am I starting this like itās an AA meeting?)
So Iāve been really struggling with imposter syndrome and perfectionism. Its hard for me to do things sometimes (like assignments/school work) and because of that I often think that Iām stupid/unintelligent and because Iām getting basically straight Aās I think my teachers arenāt actually giving me real grades, theyāre just being easy on me. Which, kinda true to some extent cuz I go to an untraditional school that just doesnāt focus so much on that competition to get the best GPA. Like for example, my math teacher only grades tests and if youāve done the homework sheāll give you a 10/10. Just things like that, and I have a history teacher that always gives bonus points.
But Iām also in an Advanced Lit class where we do read hard stuff and she does challenge me and sometimes I think that because I have a bit of trouble or make mistakes I think automatically that Iām unintelligent and that the work was easy for everyone else. Which isnāt the case at all and she says Iām doing well and that the stuff she gives us is hard. She also says Iām gifted which is hard for me to believe sometimes because I donāt have a way myself to judge that.
I had a chat with her today and basically discussed this, except to a lesser extent than I did here. I basically said how itās hard for me to read stuff generally just outside of class, and because I couldnāt do that I thought that I wouldnāt be a good teacher because I havenāt read all the classics and dissected them. And then she was like I donāt have to do that basically and with teachers thereās this perfectionist thing of expecting yourself (or other people expecting teachers) to be knowledgeable about all aspects of Literature. Which isnāt realistic.
So that helped a lot but I still struggle with imposter syndrome a lot.
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Like an identity crisis? I really should know this, being a psych majorā¦
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Ofc Iām no expert, look this up to make sure (also you donāt have to know everything about psych)
But itās basically when you feel like what youāre doing is fake. Like all that success you gained or good things or skills, you donāt actually have them and youāre worthless and a liar. Basically an imposter lol. Thatās how I define it for myself.
Like for me, I convince myself that Iām not good at literature and my teacher is just nice and gives me good grades or doesnāt see how bad I actually am at it. Which this isnāt true, but I convince myself of it sometimes.
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Soā¦inferiority complex?
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Heh, Iām just embarrassed.
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" Imposter syndrome is loosely defined as doubting your abilities and feeling like a fraud . It disproportionately affects high-achieving people, who find it difficult to accept their accomplishments. Many question whether theyāre deserving of accolades."
This is a much better definition.
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Crap. This is me. Could this be an inferiority complex?
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From what Iāve looked up, they seem like kinda different things. Imposter syndrome is basically feeling like a fraud, while it sounds like an inferiority complex is feeling very insecure/inferior.
Imposter syndrome seems like more of doubting successes and compliments, and while it seems like this could happen with an inferiority complex as wellātheyāre different things.
But idk 100%
ā'Impostersā suffer from chronic self-doubt and a sense of intellectual fraudulence that override any feelings of success or external proof of their competence. They seem unable to internalize their accomplishments, however successful they are in their field. High achieving, highly successful people often suffer, so imposter syndrome doesnāt equate with low self-esteem or a lack of self-confidence. In fact, some researchers have linked it with perfectionism, especially in women and among academics.ā
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Ah. Because I definitely have an inferiority complex. Not sure about impostor syndrome.
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I might have that too! But it seems more like imposter syndrome lol, my therapist has brought that up I think so it isnāt coming out of nowhere, but I havenāt had a formal discussion or diagnosis or anything. I think it is worth it to discuss and acknowledge tho cuz when I do I donāt blame myself as much.
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I also think itās hard because with literature since Iām not in college and have resources I donāt know where to look or have the ability to look to find resources and be able to read advanced texts on my own. I currently donāt have the time or willpower to do so, but I know I would be able to in a class setting/or with someone guiding me.
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I either woke up today very anxious or sick and Iām not doing good rn lol. I have school today and Iām probably gonna stay home.
Im probably anxious cuz of all the stress Iāve been under recently.
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