Lose the regrets.
Some things you do won’t have the best outcome but don’t regret them, learn from your mistakes and grow stronger for the future.
Regret won’t get you anywhere
I cannot stress this enough! People can say they care meanwhile they are slowly poisoning you. Do a background check before you let anyone in. Steer clear if ex convicts, guilty by association.
Do what you love not what you are told to love
This is the best advice anyone can give you. If you decide to be a doctor because you’re mama wants you to be one and you want to be a designer, then I’m sorry you’re gonna f-ck up. Do what you are capable of doing and are passionate about it.
When it comes to having and raising little monsters.
You what you think is right for your family unit.
Labour hurts. No matter what people say
You will most likely cr*p yourself during the delivery.
c section is not an easy way out.
You will be judged by other mothers by the way you delivered. It’s only because they are insecure.
You will lose sleep but you will adapt.
sleep when they sleep ( don’t worry if you don’t this advice doesn’t work if you have 2 monsters or want a semi normal sleep cycle. Don’t be afraid to not sleep when they sleep)
Kids can be a holes once they learn to walk or talk.
Stop worrying, you can control everything. Life is going to be full of ups, downs, saints and arseholes and you are not responsible for any of them. The only responsibility you hold is to yourself. If at the end of it all you are happy with the way you have acted that is what matters. No need worrying about spoilt milk in someone else’s fridge.
Don’t keep your feelings hidden, you’re sad- talk to someone, you have feelings for someone- tell them, show them, someone hurt you- let them know, something good happened to you- share the news with someone even if you don’t think anyone cares. Be honest, with yourself and with others.
Sometimes you just have to drop the ego. I know how embarrassing it may be to feel ashamed of what you said or did— but that’s normal. If you wanna be a better person, you need to allow yourself to admit you’re wrong and apologize. It doesn’t make you a bad person to be wrong, and it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be respected for being wrong because that’s part of making mistakes. In order to grow or move on as a person, you need to acknowledge. Your past doesn’t define who you are now, it’s what you choose to do with your past and the person you are now that makes you a better person.